I am cautious about recommending parenting books because not all children are alike. Neither, of course, are all parents. We all come with are own histories, strengths and limitations. There is no parenting book that can give all the answers for every situation. However here are some books that I think are useful. They offer strategies for minimizing the frustration and accentuating the joy of parenting. And most of what the authors have to say is applicable to most families.
The Secret of Parenting Anthony Wolf, PhD.
How to Talk So Kids Will Listen & Listen So Kids Will Talk Adele Faber and Elaine Mazlish
Siblings Without Rivalry Adele Faber and Elaine Mazlish
Here are some online and Bay area Resources that may be useful, depending on your particular family's needs.
I welcome feedback about this page. Let me know what you have found useful (or not so useful) in what I have listed here. Also let me know if you have resources you'd like me to be aware of. I will check them out and include those that seem appropriate to this website.