I am cautious about recommending parenting books because not all children are alike. Neither, of course, are all parents. We all come with are own histories, strengths, and limitations. There is no parenting book that can give all the answers for every situation. However, here are some books that I think are useful. They offer strategies for minimizing the frustration and accentuating the joy of parenting. And most of what the authors have to say is applicable to most families.
The Secret of Parenting
Anthony Wolf, PhD.
This short, easy read explains some of the central dilemmas of parenthood. “Why does my child behavior better for outside of the house than he does at home?” “Why does my child ignore my instructions by listen to Dad?” (Hint: itʼs not because Dad is a better parent.) A useful frame work for understanding parent/child dynamics and avoiding power struggles while staying firmly in control.
How to Talk So Kids Will Listen & Listen So Kids Will Talk
Adele Faber and Elaine Mazlish
A great book on effective communication with children. Offers multiple strategies for getting your point across without yelling or nagging. Also helps parents learn to respond to children in ways that encourage them to speak up rather than shut down.
Siblings Without Rivalry
Adele Faber and Elaine Mazlish
Of course this book cannot really deliver on the promise of its title. If you have more than one child, there will be rivalry. But this book does offer concrete strategies to avoid being drawn into their struggles, thus freeing them to develop relationships based on something other than getting your goat.
Get Out of My Life, but First Could You Drive Me & Cheryl to the Mall: A Parent’s Guide to the New Teenager
Anthony Wolf, Ph.D.
Living with teenagers can be baffling. This book helps parents understand and respond to every teens central dilemma: “How do I stay connected to my parents while forging an identity strong enough to allow me to move out?” Simple, straightforward, and humorous.
The Blessing Of A Skinned Knee: Using Jewish Teachings to Raise Self-Reliant Children
Wendy Mogel, Ph.D.
A beautifully written book on the pitfalls of over indulging and over-protecting our children. Dr. Mogel uses wisdom from ancient Jewish text to frame her lessons for modern parents. But one need not be Jewish, or even religious to benefit from these ideas.
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